How Your Wounds Share Wisdom

Many people begin their spiritual journey focusing on all that is whole and good in their life. Gratitude for the things we value is a key to having mindful living but equally important is continually excavating the long buried wounds you’ve hidden beneath layers of a protective shell.

Oprah says, “Turn your wounds into wisdom.” She likes to think of it as this way, “When you are triggered by something, like an argument, pressure at work, money issues, or even someone cutting you off on the road, this is an opportunity to bring awareness to your feelings and how your body feels.”

How to Let Go of Pain

During triggered moments, unresolved feelings of anxiety, confusion, and frustration will rush to the surface.

Pause.

Take a deep breath.

Become still long enough to ask the question, “What is this experience here to show me, or to teach me?”

As you learn to interpret your internal responses, you’ll begin to recognize a pattern. We all have them.

The more you become familiar with that emotion, allow it to rise and unfold without resistance.

Welcome it.

Experience it in the body.

Release it.

Spiritual Disturbances

Think of these moments that trigger something inside of you as spiritual disturbances. A spirit of disturbance is a troubled heart, a stress-filled life, or a disturbed heart.

Since stress is part of most of our personal lives, either in our homes, part of our families, found in our churches, and experienced in our nation. It is slowly killing and robbing us of our daily peace of mind.

Pharmaceutical companies make a fortune off prescriptions to help reduce stress and other spiritual disturbances.  No matter how hard we try, pills can’t and won’t cure a disturbance of the heart when it is really a spiritual issue.

Spiritual disturbances lose their power the moment you stop pushing against them. The result is a constant and exhilarating sense of flow.

Perception of Time

Our perception of time changes according to our stages of awareness. This means our awareness can be a powerful agent for healing the past.

We’ve all heard the adage, “Time heals all wounds.” This is not truly accurate. Time does not heal all wounds because this implies a passive attitude; just wait long enough and time will do everything.

Attitude With Time

For this to be true, our attitude toward time has to be active, not passive. We need conscious responses, not unconscious reactions.

The negative experiences that happened yesterday or years ago linger as memory and trauma. These wounds are the main obstacles to making every moment matter.

Emotional Debt

Whenever we relive the past or anticipate a painful future, we are allowing old wounds to take on new life. Some psychologists call this emotional debt from the past.

Emotional debt can be equated to a bank. During negative experiences, when we react by just putting our head down and getting on with it, this response builds up emotional debt. Anger, hurt, stress, and grief withdrawals money out of the bank while conscious awareness, relaxation, and nourishment deposits money in the bank.

A Healing Approach to Past Pain

Things we have choice over, attitudes, beliefs, lifestyle, and self-care; allow us to consciously heal the wounds of conscious time and avoid their unwanted effects.

A healing approach to time begins with noticing your reaction in the moment. When you are in a stressful situation or are reminded of painful experiences from your past, take a few deep, long breaths, and be aware of how you feel. Notice your emotions and how your body feels. Be aware of any instinctual reactions, to retaliate, to resist or runaway.

Recognize that those responses are coming from your past hurt but your inner awareness, which notices these reactions and feelings is not hurt or limited in any way by the past.

This conscious presence is your real self. And it is the place through which you are free to choose a new response, different from your conditioned response.

Continue breathing and open yourself to an appropriate response to the situation that isn’t solely determined by your past pain.

But don’t try to respond like a saint or pretend to be indifferent. An artificial response does not heal your past hurt because it’s not coming from your present moment awareness.

As you become more familiar with the remaining connection to the conscious self during stressful situations, you become free from your conditioned reactions and heal your past.

By directing your attention to your inner awareness, you align your heart and mind to living in the present moment. When you learn to live from your timeless self, every moment of time is healing and everyday is filled with the joy of transforming yourself.

This is what is means to make every moment matter.

Centering Message

A centering thought for mediation is, “I heal my past by being in the present.”

Laugh Out Loud: Laughing is Just Good Practical Fun

Babboon LaughingOf all the gifts bestowed by nature on human beings, hearty laughter must be close to the top.” – Norman Cousins
Human beings need to have fun. We need to play, and most importantly, we need to laugh.” -Hal Urban
A cheerful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones” – Solomon 17:22
A little nonsense now and then is relished by the wisest of men.”- Ancient proverb
There ain’t much fun in medicine, but there’s a heck of a lot of medicine in fun.” – Josh Billings

Laugh out loud. Play. Be Silly. Joke around. Have Fun! These are just some of the things I think of when I see children play. I watched a young girl today make the most mundane activity a joyful experience not only for her but for her granddad and mother. All three were walking along the sidewalk, destination unknown, but she playfully walked tagging one caretaker and then the other. She giggled, skipped, and made all those around her including myself chuckle out loud.

Where does that spirit go? I see children playing at the park, laughing, and having a grand ole’ time; hopping, skipping, and twirling around with not a care in the world. When does that dwindle? Life takes over, responsibilities become priorities, and work turns into a necessity. Yet I know deep in my heart, I still love to play, giggle like that 7 year old girl, and act silly. Those are some of my fondest of memories with friends, partners, and family. It’s free, fun and even good for the mind and body.

In the book, Anatomy of an Illness, Cousins said, “It worked. I made the joyous discovery that ten minutes of genuine belly laughter had an aesthetic effect and would give me at least two hours of pain-free sleep.”

Even Einstein ensured he had a daily dose of laughter in his long, arduous hours of mathematical equations. He was known for maintaining thousands of notebooks on scientific equations and on jokes. He was able to work extremely long hours due to frequent breaks and using good ole’ fashion laughter to lighten his load (Urban, H.).

Laughter is not only used by humans such as Einstein and Edison but also animals. Chimps use laughter to solidify friendships and alliances according to lead author Marina Davila-Ross, PhD from the University of Portsmouth in England (Dingfelder, S.).

Here are just a few of the benefits of laughter:

  • Strong painkiller
  • Enhances respiration
  • Produces endorphins
  • Increases immune cells
  • Strengthens immune systems
  • Reduces stress and tension
  • Calms tempers
  • Stimulates creativity
  • Improves blood flow
  • Builds and strengthens relationships
  • Simply makes life more fun!

There are so many positives to laughter. It’s impractical not to incorporate it into your daily routine. Doctors and laymen alike support amusement so why not you? You may be asking, well how do I begin?

There is no easier way than to start with yourself. You don’t have to look far to see humor in the silly things we do, like tripping over our own two left feet, clamoring over misspoken words, or our own goofy thoughts that run through our minds. There’s nothing like using yourself as your own tool to bring hilarity and heal yourself. When was the last time you laughed out loud; I mean a good ole-fashioned belly laugh?

Here are some recommended items to ensure you laugh daily. What do you do to ensure a good chuckle?

Movies:

  • Zorba the Greek
  • A Thousand Clowns
  • Patch Adams

TV Programs:

  • Candid Camera
  • America’s Funniest Home Videos

Magazines:

  • Reader’s Digest: “Laughter, the Best Medicine”
  • Comic Books
  • Mad Magazine

References:

Dingfelder, S. Chimps’ laughter: Not just monkey see, monkey do, May 2011, Vol 42, No. 5, p. 11
Urban, H. Life’s Greatest Lessons: 20 Things That Matter, 4th Edition, Fireside, New York

Training Insights From Star Athletes

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Training Insights
STAYING ON TOP Brian Sell, competing in the 2008 Olympic marathon trials in Central Park; Natalie Coughlin in the 2012 Olympic trials; Meredith Kessler in the Vineman triathlon in 2012.

By GINA KOLATA
Of course elite athletes are naturally gifted. And of course they
train hard and may have a phalanx of support staff – coaches, nutritionists,
psychologists.

But they often have something else that gives them an
edge: an insight, or even an epiphany, that vaults them from the middle of the
pack to the podium.

I asked several star athletes about the single
realization that made the difference for them. While every athlete’s tale is
intensely personal, it turns out there are some common themes.

Stay
Focused

Like many distance swimmers who spend endless hours in the pool,
Natalie Coughlin, 30, used to daydream as she swam laps. She’d been a
competitive swimmer for almost her entire life, and this was the way she – and
many others – managed the boredom of practice.

But when she was in
college, she realized that daydreaming was only a way to get in the miles; it
was not allowing her to reach her potential. So she started to concentrate every
moment of practice on what she was doing, staying focused and thinking about her
technique.

“That’s when I really started improving,” she said. “The more
I did it, the more success I had.”

In addition to her many victories, Ms.
Coughlin won five medals in the 2008 Beijing Olympics, including a gold medal in
the 100-meter backstroke.

Manage Your ‘Energy Pie’

In 1988, Steve
Spence, then a 25-year-old self-coached distance runner, was admitted into the
United States Long Distance Runner Olympic Development Program. It meant
visiting David Martin, a physiologist at Georgia State University, several times
a year for a battery of tests to measure Mr. Spence’s progress and to assess his
diet.

During dinner at Dr. Martin’s favorite Chinese restaurant, he gave
Mr. Spence some advice.

“There are always going to be runners who are
faster than you,” he said. “There will always be runners more talented than you
and runners who seem to be training harder than you. The key to beating them is
to train harder and to learn how to most efficiently manage your energy
pie.”

Energy pie? All the things that take time and energy – a job,
hobbies, family, friends, and of course athletic training. “There is only so
much room in the pie,” said Mr. Spence.

Dr. Martin’s advice was “a
lecture on limiting distractions,” he added. “If I wanted to get to the next
level, to be competitive on the world scene, I had to make running a priority.”
So he quit graduate school and made running his profession. “I realized this is
what I am doing for my job.”

It paid off. He came in third in the 1991
marathon world championships in Tokyo. He made the 1992 Olympic marathon team,
coming in 12th in the race. Now he is head cross-country coach and assistant
track coach at Shippensburg University in Pennsylvania. And he tells his teams
to manage their energy pies.

Structure Your Training

Meredith
Kessler was a natural athlete. In high school, she played field hockey and
lacrosse. She was on the track team and the swimming team. She went to Syracuse
University on a field hockey scholarship.

Then she began racing in
Ironman triathlons, which require athletes to swim 2.4 miles, cycle 112 miles
and then run a marathon (26.2 miles). Ms. Kessler loved it, but she was not
winning any races. The former sports star was now in the middle of the
pack.

But she also was working 60 hours a week at a San Francisco
investment bank and trying to spend time with her husband and friends. Finally,
six years ago, she asked Matt Dixon, a coach, if he could make her a better
triathlete.

One thing that turned out to be crucial was to understand the
principles of training. When she was coaching herself, Ms. Kessler did whatever
she felt like, with no particular plan in mind. Mr. Dixon taught her that every
workout has a purpose. One might focus on endurance, another on speed. And
others, just as important, are for recovery.

“I had not won an Ironman
until he put me on that structure,” said Ms. Kessler, 34. “That’s when I started
winning.”

Another crucial change was to quit her job so she could devote
herself to training. It took several years – she left banking only in April 2011
– but it made a huge difference. Now a professional athlete, with sponsors, she
has won four Ironman championships and three 70.3 kilometer
championships.

Ms. Kessler’s parents were mystified when she quit her
job. She reminded them that they had always told her that it did not matter if
she won. What mattered was that she did her best. She left the bank, she said,
“to do my best.”

Take Risks

Helen Goodroad began competing as a
figure skater when she was in fourth grade. Her dream was to be in the Olympics.
She was athletic and graceful, but she did not really look like a figure skater.
Ms. Goodroad grew to be 5 feet 11 inches.

“I was probably twice the size
of any competitor,” she said. “I had to have custom-made skates starting when I
was 10 years old.”

One day, when Helen was 17, a coach asked her to try a
workout on an ergometer, a rowing machine. She was a natural – her power was
phenomenal.

“He told me, ‘You could get a rowing scholarship to any
school. You could go to the Olympics,’ ” said Ms. Goodroad. But that would mean
giving up her dream, abandoning the sport she had devoted her life to and
plunging into the unknown.

She decided to take the chance.

It was
hard and she was terrified, but she got a rowing scholarship to Brown. In 1993,
Ms. Goodroad was invited to train with the junior national team. Three years
later, she made the under-23 national team, which won a world championship. (She
rowed under her maiden name, Betancourt.)

It is so easy to stay in your
comfort zone, Ms. Goodroad said. “But then you can get stale. You don’t go
anywhere.” Leaving skating, leaving what she knew and loved, “helped me see
that, ‘Wow, I could do a whole lot more than I ever thought I could.’

Until this academic year, when she had a baby, Ms. Goodroad, who is 37,
was a rowing coach at Princeton. She still runs to stay fit and plans to return
to coaching.

The Other Guy Is Hurting Too

In 2006, when Brian Sell
was racing in the United States Half Marathon Championships in Houston, he had a
realization.

“I was neck-and-neck with two or three other guys with two
miles to go,” he said. He started to doubt himself. What was he doing,
struggling to keep up with men whose race times were better than
his?

Suddenly, it came to him: Those other guys must be hurting as much
as he was, or else they would not be staying with him – they would be pulling
away.

“I made up my mind then to hang on, no matter what happened or how
I was feeling,” said Mr. Sell. “Sure enough, in about half a mile, one guy
dropped out and then another. I went on to win by 15 seconds or so, and every
race since then, if a withering surge was thrown in, I made every effort to hang
on to the guy surging.”

Mr. Sell made the 2008 Olympic marathon team and
competed in the Beijing Olympics, where he came in 22nd. Now 33 years old, he is
working as a scientist at Lancaster Laboratories in Pennsylvania.