Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. ~Carl Gustav Jung (1875 – 1961)
Great Quote
“The relinquishing of judgmentalism greatly increases the capacity of Love, as does surrendering the wanting of anything from others. Thus, people are not perceived according to what they have or do but by appreciation for what they have become.”
~ “Transcending the levels of consciousness” – subtitle, The stairway to enlightenment. written by: David R. Hawkins, M.D., Ph.D.
Quote of the day
“Books have the same enemies as people: fire, humidity, animals, weather, and their own content.” ~Paul Valery (1871 – 1945)
A Great Quote
“The free thinking of one age is the common sense of the next.”
~ Matthew Arnold (1822 – 1888)
State of Mind
Women talk about being used and taken advantage of by men. As I pondered more I thought ‘being used’ is only a state of mind. We always have control and a choice. It is easy to blame the other person than to accept responsibility of our own actions.
We may not always make the best decision, but it is best to accept that you did wrong, learn from the experience and then move on.
When it comes to women and sex, learn to let go and enjoy the moment for what it is. Sex is not a relationship. A relationship takes hard work, dedication and a willingness to compromise. We all have a choice, stand up for yourself and choose what you want and then fully engage in the moment for what it is.
Open versus Monogamous Relationships
What are your behavioral patterns in a relationship? What is preventing you from achieving your goals of intimacy?
Communication
I thought more about communication and concluded at times we look for certain answers to our questions but give up easily if they aren’t answered immediately and settle for an answer that leaves feelings of emptiness and disappointment in the other person.
In the past, I would ask a question, get a certain response, be upset that it wasn’t what I was looking for and react negatively in response.
Now I have learned not to react so quickly and give up after only one question. Most likely the other person doesn’t know exactly the answer you are looking for or understand your intent. Remain calm, don’t react, and calmly ask another question to probe for more detail in their thought. It may take several rounds back and forth but each questioned answered gets a little closer to the answer that is satisfactory to both parties. It just takes gentle probing, remaining calm, and continuing the process.
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